First Date!

I went on a date with The Law Student (TLS) tonight, and let’s just say, it was far better than I could have imagined. He was a true gentleman, extremely nice (but still flirtatious), and the conversation flowed very easily. In fact, we only had plans for dinner, but dinner was over before we knew it and we were soon figuring out where to go for dessert. He’s smart, serious, and ambitious, but still knows how to have fun and has a great sense of humor.

Can you tell I like him?

He said he had a good time as well, so hopefully we will see each other again.

I also have plans to go out with Red on Tuesday night, but after meeting TLS I’m not quite as interested. This is why I can’t casually date.

This could get interesting…

Boys, Boys, Boys

I could get used to this online dating thing. So far I have met two guys I like (Red who I already mentioned, and The Law Student).

Red and I seem to have a really great connection, the conversation is easy and flirtatious, while still keeping it PG (last night a random guy asked me if I was a sexual creature so that we could figure out if our libidos matched from the beginning. Next!). Red is leaving tomorrow, but we have tentative plans to hang out when he gets back.

The Law Student (TLS) is one of those guys who is perfect on paper and is actually cute and a nice guy (at least that is my first impression). It’s kind of intimidating because I have never had a guy like that interested in me before! Anyway, he actually called me last night exactly when he said he would! I know that this is a requirement and shouldn’t be a big deal, but when meeting people on the internet, I am very skeptical that any of them will actually be decent guys. So he gets brownie points for that! Right now I’m sick with strep, but we have plans to hang out over the weekend when I am better and will continue to talk during the week!

I need to remember to continue to be skeptical, but so far I am pretty impressed with these guys and I am excited to actually meet them!

Have any of you had success with online dating? Have you tried it?

Happiness?

For the first time in a long time, I feel genuinely happy. There are parts of my life that I would still like to change and improve, but I’m okay with that. It is possible to be happy and imperfect. Most people are.

Signing up for jdate was one of the best things I have done for myself in a while. Yes, I feel slightly lame, but really, internet dating is NOT as weird as it seems. I’ve been talking to some (seemingly) awesome, cute, intelligent guys and may even have some potential dates with them.These are guys whose words make me smile, even grin, without me even noticing until my mom gives me a “What’s so funny?” look. Yes, I have talked to some sketchballs and guys much too old for me, but you just tell them that you aren’t interested and move right along. No big deal.

Mainly though, I have learned that there really are other fish in the sea. Of course I always knew that, but I wasn’t sure if any of those other fish would be interested in ME. Now I know that they are and that feels nice. But most importantly, it shows me that I can do so much better than the Ex. And I will.

I already blocked him on AIM (he has me blocked too, but now when he decides to unblock me, he will know that I still don’t want to talk to him). This girl wrote on his facebook wall very flirtatiously last night, and it unnerved me a little, made me slightly jealous, but it didn’t ruin my day like it would have a month ago. It didn’t give me that familiar sinking feeling in my stomach or make my heart start pounding so hard I can almost hear it.

I’m hoping that eventually I will be able to take all of tihs off-line, but I think I have made a pretty good start. And right now that makes me happy. Even if I do have strep throat (crazy germy kids) and have to miss school tomorrow.

Someone is Interested in You!

So this whole JDate thing has caused my inbox to flood with emails telling me about all the nice Jewish boys who have sent me messages or added me to their “hot lists.” It’s a little insane (and most of the guys seem lame) but I’m having fun.

This guy (we’ll call him Red) messaged me this morning and we ended up talking for almost two hours! We seemed to get along pretty well (as much as I can tell through the technology filter) and he asked me out! He is going away on Wednesday and asked to get a drink on Monday or Tuesday, but I told him things would be a little crazy for me then and we should get together when he gets back. He asked for my gmail so we can continue to talk and make more definite plans.

This whole internet thing still weirds me out a little, but I’m actually pretty excited. I’ve never been on a date with someone I’ve never met before! I haven’t really dated much at all. The Ex and I lived on the same floor in college,  so there was no need for us to officially “date” because we could get to know each other in the comfort of our dorm rooms.

We’ll see if Red actually comes through and wants to make definite plans with me. I’m not getting my hopes up but we will see what happens. I’m afraid that if I do go out with him, things will be super awkward and sketchy. Hello, we met on the internet? I’m trying not to overthink it. I guess this is one of the benefits of online dating. It forces you to have a thick skin and really make you into a dating pro. Or at least I imagine that it would.

But now I need help from all of you, lovely readers:

What makes a good first date?

Anyone have any dating advice for a real beginner? Tips? Escape plans?

TGIF!

This week has been so long! Today was a pretty awesome day though. I got several very generous gifts from parents in my class (so sweet!). I really have the best class ever.

I got to bake sugar cookies! Have I mentioned that I love to bake? They aren’t done yet, but I will let you all know how they turn out! I am most excited to decorate them. I will be experimenting with a royal icing recipe…we’ll see how this turns out!

I have a confesssion. I was talking to a friend a couple days ago and she convinced me to sign up for JDate (essentially match.com for Jews) because a lot of her friends have had success. I am very turned off by internet dating (or at least I thought) because I like the idea of meeting people because our paths crossed at the right time.  This may be a huge waste of $37 (for one month) but today alone I had 7 messages and someone added me to their “Hot List.” This all sounds so lame, I know. But really, my expectations are not high. I just want to gain some dating experience and confidence so that I will feel more comfortable when I start dating for real. Does that make sense?

How do you all feel about internet dating?